Turning Twenty

A week ago today, I officially turned twenty years old. In the days leading up to my birthday, I didn’t expect to do much, nor did I feel the need to. Lucky for me, I have amazing family and friends that went out of their way to make the entire week of this year’s birthday a special one.

The day before, I got to celebrate with my dad’s side of the family. We had a delicious dinner, then cake for dessert, only after I was sung to by the restaurant attendees and workers. We encountered some difficulty when trying to light all twenty candles. With only some of the candles getting lit before we became too impatient, according to my cake I was turning fourteen. All in all, I couldn’t have asked for a better way to kickoff of the week’s festivities.

For the night of May 3rd, what was supposed to be a small gathering for dinner with my mom’s side of the family, turned into a fully decorated apartment hosting a fun-filled birthday party. After a few last minute internet searches of party themes, the perfect idea for a birthday party came to mind that I just couldn’t miss out on. I decided the only right way to celebrate turning twenty, with a birthday two days before Cinco de Mayo, is to have a Selena themed fiesta! As you may already know, I am a huge Selena fan, so the thought of getting to honor her legacy while having a my own birthday celebration made me muy…excited to turn twenty!

Later that night, I took a chance by messaging actress Noemí Gonzalez, who portrays Selena’s sister in the Selena: The Series on Netflix, in hopes that she might see my Selena party. She is my favorite actress from the series, so I was thrilled when I saw that she had responded to me with a birthday wish!

The Instagram message from @iamnoemigonzalez, the actress who portrays Selena’s sister, Suzette, in the Netflix series.

Even after my birthday, just when I thought the fun was over, I got to see my best friend for the first time in months! At the end of the week we made plans to spend quality time together. First, we ate at one of our favorite restaurants, then drove to a crafts store to buy all the necessary supplies to paint. Though we overestimated our painting abilities and this endeavor definitely didn’t go according to plan, still I can’t think of a better to way to have reunited with her. As one of my best friends, she is one person who I knew would selflessly spend a day making me feel special with a belated birthday celebration.

Like many, my birthday looked drastically different compared to last year’s. I’m glad I was able to have safe gatherings with my loved ones and I’m grateful to have reached two decades of life.

A Real Salute to a Music Legend

In case you missed it, the annual Grammys were held earlier this month. Months prior the Recording Academy had revealed that among a long list of deserving recipients, one of my favorite artists of all time would receive their Lifetime Achievement Award; the late Tejano singer Selena Quintanilla.

Multiple misleading social media posts advertised Selena specifically, urging viewers to tune in to watch what many believed would be a tribute. On the night of the awards I watched for hours, through numerous commercials, waiting for the honorees in this category to respectfully have their moment of earned recognition. Finally, at the last five minutes of the show, Selena and the other recipients of this award were recognized in a ridiculously brief slideshow. The presentation flashed through pictures of each artist for a few seconds, and failed to even play a snippet of any of the artists’ music. This left me, and other viewers stunned.

After the show thousands of fans, took their astonishment to social media to voice their disappointment in the show. Some might try to excuse this as being due to a time constraint in the show. Devoted fans felt that each of the rewarded artists, but especially Selena who would be receiving this grand award posthumously, deserved more. Many also thought the show missed the opportunity to allow her family members to speak publicly and receive the award on her behalf. Though grateful for the honor, the brevity of the remembrance didn’t go unnoticed by her family.

Selena’s own sister, Suzette, took to Instagram to share the family’s gratitude for the Grammy Award. She voiced a similar opinion to many fans, stating that she too felt the awards “should’ve shown more love and acknowledgement to Selena.” The singer’s Lifetime Achievement Award is now on display at the Selena Museum in her hometown of Corpus Christi, Texas.

Seemingly in some previous years, at least one honoree has been allotted time to make an acceptance speech. Another way that recipients have been honored for the past four years is in a separately-aired show entitled “GRAMMY Salute To Music Legends”. This is a tribute concert to honor each Special Merit Award recipient. Although it is unclear exactly when the show is taped, it seems to air months after the taping of the award show. Even last year in the midst of the pandemic, this tribute took place. It’s now been weeks since the 63rd Grammy Awards and with no mention of this tribute show, the Recording Academy seemingly just advertised Selena in order to attain viewers.

— Last year PBS advertised the GRAMMY Salute To Music Legends tribute show to honor the 2020 Special Merit Award winners.

As someone who believes Selena deserved better recognition for such an outstanding achievement, on the last day of Women’s History Month, today I felt a strong need to give a real salute to a music legend.

Selena pictured with her band.

Hailing from Texas, Selena Quintanilla-Peréz was a Mexican-American singer who never spoke fluent Spanish growing up, but eventually taught herself how to sing in the language. She performed in a band comprised of her two older siblings, her brother A.B. as the bassist and her sister Suzette as the drummer, since the early 80s. Their band Selena y Los Dinos would later come to include other members, including guitarist Chris Peréz, who in 1992 became Selena’s husband. The band performed Tejano music which is a fusion of different genres. It is a distinct genre that takes Latin influences of Cumbias and Mariachis and blends them with Country, Polka, and even Pop sounds. Selena is noted for having a number of hits such as “Como La Flor”, “Amor Prohibido”, and “Bidi Bidi Bom Bom”, to name just a few.

The cover for Selena’s 1994 Amor Prohibido album.
Selena pictures with her Grammy in 1994 for Best Mexican-American Album.

Selena would go on to achieve many successes in her life, such as her first and only Grammy Award win in 1994 for Best Mexican-American Album with her album Selena Live!, which was recorded from a live concert. This win marked the first time a female Tejano artist won in this category. The next year she was nominated again in the same category for her Amor Prohibido album. On February 26th 1995, the singer set the all-time attendance record with 66,994 fans showing up to watch her perform at the Astrodome in the Houston Rodeo. This was her third appearance in the show and third consecutive time to break such record.

The saddest part of this rising star’s story is its unfortunate ending. Today marks 26 years since the tragic passing of Selena, who at just 23 years old, was fatally shot by her fan club president. After her death, songs from her unfinished English album “Dreaming of You” and “I Could Fall In Love” were released. Though some may not understand the words she’s singing in Spanish, she was an artist who had the ability to entertain anyone. Selena once said, “The goal isn’t to live forever, but to create something that will.” Years later Selena’s music continues to live on.

You may be familiar with Selena’s story the same way I first saw it as a young girl, through the 1997 biopic Selena, in which she is portrayed by the now popular singer and actress Jennifer Lopez. The movie’s soundtrack was nominated for a Grammy the following year. While the film is just a snapshot of the performer’s life, it portrays Selena as a multifaceted artist, as being not only a gifted singer but a skilled designer of fashion and business owner of a couple of her own boutiques. A Netflix series that debuted last year shares Selena’s tight bond with her family while exploring more in depth her journey as a young artist trying to make it into the mainstream market. Whether you’ve watched her story on screen or you’ve listened to her music, there’s no denying the impact she had on the Hispanic community. In recent years and in the age of social media, she has gained popularity within a whole new generation of fans from all around the world.

Selena visited Cunningham Middle School in 1994 to speak publicly about her upcoming album, and encourage students to stay in school.

Selena was an artist that I had been aware of through the iconic 1997 film, but never truly got to know until later in life. If there’s anything to know about her, it’s that she was a person of great work ethic and admirable humility. Her music has always made me feel closer to my Mexican roots despite not knowing every word she is singing. It will always hurt to know that someone so young, talented, and humble didn’t get to live on and continue her passions. Though her time was short-lived, the impact of her legacy that she leaves behind is remarkable. Her music is timeless. To receive the Lifetime Achievement Award is an amazing acknowledgement of her career, but I personally feel that a couple of seconds is not enough time to properly honor such a trailblazing woman in music history.

Selena Quintanilla-Perez April 16 1971- March 31, 1995

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